I can’t believe it has been months and months since I have written. I want to thank everyone for not judging (if you are, keep it to yourself!). I have been busy living life…but I have many ideas for future blog posts! Let’s see how many of them come true!

I have been mulling around the idea to talk about the power of positive friendships, specifically starting off with female-to-female friendships because I truly do feel that the more of these I build/maintain, and cherish in my adult life the more wholesome I feel.

POSITVE FEMALE FRIENDSHIPS

With the change of the political climate I’ve become more focused on using our (female) collective power and speaking our truth. Let’s be honest…if you are a woman, you live a different life than if you are a man.

Side rant: A few months ago, a male director at my job told me that I should smile more and I shut that down right away telling him I considered that comment sexist because we both knew that would not be said to any male. He apologized and it never happened again. I am done putting up with that stuff and if you are female, you also do not have to put up with it. You can argue with me about this but until you walk in our shoes you don’t know SH&$ (#sorrynotsorry)!

I did something strange over the past year and made a list of women that I know and admire that perhaps I didn’t get a chance to hang out with and I made it a mission to try to schedule time with them (sometimes as a double date, sometimes as a coffee date, sometimes as lunch or dinner and drinks…any way that worked). I am not finished going through my list and I have also realized that it takes a lot of effort to keep these “friend-dates” recurring (which I am also still working on). This has been a positive experience.  I feel renewed and energized after spending time with these ladies. I have learned these women share resiliency. They all have different personalities and I admire them for many different reasons. They are all strong, funny, and smart in the most unique ways.  My goal is to continue to connect with the women I have crossed paths with in my life.  Something I would like to reflect on is the WHY. Why do these relationships with women leave me energized as opposed to tired and annoyed? It is because these women are busy bettering themselves and they have #goals, they aren’t trying to compare themselves to me and they are supportive. That is the difference between my early life (high school/college) to now. I have no time to give energy to people that want to compete or have envy. I do have time to mentor and support #goals of others in a healthy positive way.   In the words of AMY POEHLER: Good for her! Not for me. #positivefemalefriendships